To achieve certain goals for me nowadays, I had a nostalgic student time. Those nostalgias all begin with “The first time…”
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“The first time”
THE FIRST TIME I KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE REJECTED
I believe that if I didn’t get out of the “safe zone” of myself, it might be very hard for me to achieve goals in my life nowadays – success, confidence, and independence. The feeling of being rejected is very annoying but when I look back, I see that I equipped myself with enough necessary knowledge and skills in order not to be rejected.
At work, I express my enthusiasm but no one pays attention to it. Later, I realized I wasn’t prepared enough skills, knowledge, as well as my appearance, didn’t look good and the way I talked was also rushed and hasty. It means showing disrespect to the opposite! This is an experience in communication I want to share with the youth.
What is the solution? I consolidated the skill I like the most – English. Every weekend, I went to an English center to communicate with foreigners with the purpose of practicing English communication. Next, I decided to have a coffee meeting with a brother who studied in my school – he is very good and I respect him – to find a way to improve myself. It took 2 months and 4 times to have a meeting with him. He was very busy as well as I didn’t know how to make an impression or get attention from him.
Young people, remember: “ when communicating with someone, you must give them some detail to make them remember you if not, they won’t remember whom they were talking with and also forgot the date you made”
The date is set, I spent almost all my money on preparation. I chose the most expensive coffee shop in HCMC, prepared the most premium vehicle to pick him up and obviously my spirit is also highest. A lot of people look at me and think I’m acting but I just really want to meet him at all costs. After an hour and thirty minutes talking to each other, I received many statements that I still feel true to this day: “Now you don’t have anything so you have to create something for yourself.” or “You know you are bad but it doesn’t mean you can’t get better.”
If you were born in poor conditions, things that you and the others have the same are time, spirit, and efforts. Others are good, they make 1 effort, you aren’t good, you must make seven, eight, or even ten to be equal to them.
I’m sad about one thing for young people today, your attitude is very superficial. Maybe, you have many ways to find knowledge so you don’t put a lot of emphasis on sincerity in your attitude like I did. Your goods can be replaced at any time by a person who has a fine capacity but comes with sincerity and progress. I don’t need you to bend over or suffer. I need you to be confident and listen. And what is not good, improve it, don’t be discouraged. Because today, being rejected or not is no longer important.
